A Response to - Is he being selfish and cruel? Learning to take care of yourself

Dear, your bf is mentally ill.
He will interpret many things that you do incorrectly.

That doesn't mean that his version is right though.
As the mentally healthier person, we have to be able to look beyond what he says and see the whole picture.

His needs are to abuse you when he is upset.
His needs are to verbally bash you when he feels down.
His needs are to bind you to him when he is lonely or afraid.
His needs are to control what you do/ who you see/ how you do things so that he can feel more in control.

His needs are abusive and unhealthy.
His needs are selfish and childish.
His needs don't consider YOUR needs in any shape or fashion...

Right now, things are unhealthy and hurtful to you, since you are loving him more than you are loving yourself.

When we love ourselves, we don't allow others to abuse us


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