It isn't easy to let go and watch them struggle. Our instincts are to save and to shelter. If you are having a hard time with his, then this is an area that you need to work on. They need our support, not our insecurities.
I triy to use radical acceptance at times like this. I remind myself that I can't to want it more than they do. Cause if that's the case, then they will fail anyways. They really have to want it. If I believe that they don't want it, that is my clue to back off and let go. The decision is theirs, as well as the consequences. We are just spectators. Does that make sense?
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