New phobia - ragephobia

This topic started in someone else's thread, but I thought it was important enough to address - so I started a new thread to address it...

"That's cuz the worst happens when we don't prepare for it."


Are you sure about that?

What is "the worst?"
* They leave us? - we rebuild our lives
* They physically assault us? - we heal ourselves apart from them
* They steal or harm our children? - we work at preventing that
* They break and destroy our house/car/possessions? - we can live without those possessions
* They tell lies to our family and friends about us? - those who love us will believe in us
* They scream and yell at us? - we have the choice to walk away
* They punish us by not speaking to us? - we enjoy the silence and work on ourselves

Any of these things are horrible and bad - but they aren't the end of the world. We can rebuild/regain/replace most of it.


I think we allow ourselves to be controlled by our fears.

Atychiphobia- Fear of failure.
Arachnephobia or Arachnophobia- Fear of spiders.
Decidophobia- Fear of making decisions.
Enosiophobia or Enissophobia- Fear of having committed an unpardonable sin or of criticism.
Eremophobia- Fear of being oneself or of lonliness.
Gnosiophobia- Fear of knowledge.
Hypengyophobia or Hypegiaphobia- Fear of responsibility.
Kakorrhaphiophobia- Fear of failure or defeat.
Mastigophobia- Fear of punishment.
Mythophobia- Fear of myths or stories or false statements.
Omphalophobia- Fear of belly buttons. (had to throw that one in )
Poinephobia- Fear of punishment.
Rhabdophobia- Fear of being severely punished or beaten by a rod, or of being severely criticized. Also fear of magic.(wand)
and last but not least...
Zemmiphobia- Fear of the great mole rat.

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I'm going to invent a new phobia .....ragephobia- a fear of being raged at, yelled at, criticized, or belittled by our loved one.

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A phobia is an overwhelming and unreasonable fear of an object or situation that poses little real danger. Unlike the brief anxiety most people feel when they give a speech or take a test, a phobia is long-lasting, causes intense physical and psychological distress, and can affect your ability to function normally at home/work or in relationships with others.

No matter what type of phobia you have, it's likely to produce the following reactions:

* A feeling of uncontrollable anxiety when you're exposed to the source of your fear — sitting on an airplane, for instance, or walking into a large party
* The feeling that you must do everything possible to avoid what you fear
* The inability to function normally because of your anxiety
* Often, the knowledge that your fears are unreasonable or exaggerated but feeling powerless to control them
* Physical as well as psychological reactions, including sweating, rapid heartbeat, difficulty breathing, a feeling of panic and intense anxiety
* In some cases, anxiety just thinking about what you fear

How do you deal with a phobia?
Behavior therapy
Desensitization or exposure therapy focuses on changing your response to the object or situation that you fear. Gradual, repeated exposure to the cause of your phobia may help you learn to conquer your anxiety. For example, if you're afraid of flying, your therapy may progress from simply thinking about flying to looking at pictures of airplanes, to going to an airport, to sitting in an airplane, and finally to taking a flight.

Cognitive behavioral therapy is a more comprehensive form of therapy. It involves working with a therapist to learn ways to view and cope with the feared object or situation differently. You learn alternative beliefs about your fears and the impact they have on your life. There's special emphasis on learning to develop a sense of mastery and control of your thoughts and feelings.

To help you cope with fears:

* Talk openly about fears. Don't trivialize the problem or belittle yourself for being afraid.
* Don't reinforce phobias. Instead, take advantage of opportunities to help overcome your fears.
* Pursue positive approaches. learn to breathe deeply and repeat positive statements such as "I can do this" when facing something scary. rate the fear on a scale of 1 to 10. Recognizing that the fear rates only a 5 on the scale, for example, may help you see the feeling as being less overwhelming.

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